Just Jo!

Olivia just read this on what she thought was a friend’s blog (she was quite excited to see he was doing the photo prompts as well), although we haven’t had any contact with them for ages, and it upset her an awful lot which I personally find unforgiveable. I’m making it private because it involves children. Although it’s quite possible I may change my mind because I’m so bloody furious about it.

“We saw this boat on a home ed group trip to Teignmouth. It was a bit of a sad day because my Mum’s friend stopped talking to her because I told Olivia I didn’t like her. Now Jo doesn’t want to be my mum’s friend any more and its made my mum sad. I don’t understand why adults get like that because the argument was between me and olivia and she was being spiteful too. My Mum said I shouldn’t worry about it though because some adults just get silly and there’s nothing you can do.”

I purposefully have never used or indicated (and I’d certainly never allow Olivia to)anyone’s name in any of my minor rants, especially not children’s, because I’d like to think I’m better than that and it’s not actually anyone else’s business. Having read that though, despite it being from a child (I can only think it’s come from the mother, I really don’t believe that children are that awful), I think it’s fair to say I’ve had enough.
Just for the record, I didn’t stop talking to Lin because Josh said he didn’t like Olivia. I have said to Lin on numerous occasions that it is absolutely pointless to fall out over any disagreements between kids as they always make up before you can blink. The reason I stopped talking to Lin is a very long story and has absolutely nothing to do with the kids. Someone else was stirring things up (although I have severe doubts about that now) and, although I thought we had a good friendship, Lin chose to believe them. Obviously we didn’t have the close friendship she so often went on about. She looked me in the face and told me that she’d never home educate in this city again because of what was going on. All the time knowing that was what she was planning on doing. There have been plenty of other ‘little white lies’ and, from talking to other people, which is something I don’t actually do a whole lot of, I have discovered that Lin tells different versions of the same story to different people. I am fully aware that Lin has been extremely betrayed by friends in the past and has huge trust issues. I think I have been very accommodating in view of that. But seeing that I can no longer believe a word she says to me, I have chosen to have nothing to do with her.
I have skirted over this issue before, but, as I’ve said, not actually mentioned any names. I’ve also said I don’t like being lied to or about. And that is the reason (the only reason) I “stopped talking to her”. I feel extremely uncomfortable around her and I don’t happen to think I’m being “silly”.
And I’m under no illusions about Olivia, she can be very bossy at times and likes very much to be the organiser, but she hasn’t got a spiteful bone in her body (and that particular day she had very little to do with Josh and Matt anyway).
I also think it’s abysmal to use your child to say things you are thinking yourself.
Rant over.
I’d like to apologise, but I can’t. Still absolutely steaming.